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Why You Feel Anxious When Someone Asks What You Did This Weekend | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services

Why You Feel Anxious When Someone Asks What You Did This Weekend

Anxiety, Imposter Syndrome, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism, Stress /

 “What’d you do this weekend?”

That’s what your coworkers innocently ask you every Monday morning.  They’re just making conversation, of course, but do you feel a pang of anxiety when you’re asked that question?  Do you feel a need to justify your weekend? To prove that you spent it in a worthwhile way?  

 

In today’s post, I’ll tell you exactly why you feel anxious and uncomfortable when you’re asked that question.  In a nutshell: You’re not a worthwhile person. (ok actually it might be more complicated than that…) Check out the article.

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2019.10.07 7 Things That Cause Maladaptive Perfectionism & Anxiety | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

7 Things That Cause Maladaptive Perfectionism & Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism /

Recently, we’ve been talking about when setting high standards for ourselves gets out of hand and creates anxiety. It’s called maladaptive perfectionism when it crosses that line and starts creating more problems (i.e., anxiety) than it solves. We identified the signs we’ve crossed the line, we figured out what your standards are, and we determined whether your standards are healthy or unhealthy. Today, we’re taking a step back and talking about what causes us to get in this situation. I mean, let’s be honest, we all like knowing where to place the blame 😉. Grab the PDF at the end to work through it for yourself.

Next week, I’m demystifying signs of stress in women. Don’t miss it.

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11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Creating Unnecessary Anxiety | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Healthy or Creating Unnecessary Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism, Stress /

So we’ve talked about how the unhealthy, unrelenting standards you’ve set for yourself are keeping you stuck with anxiety. They make you feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and stressed out. And we also talked about the importance of having standards — we can’t just abandon them altogether! What we want to do is identify the standards that are helpful and keep those around and then also identify the ones that are creating anxiety and modify them to be more helpful. So last week we figured out what your standards are. And today, it’s time to figure out which standards are unhelpful and causing unnecessary anxiety. Check out my article today outlining 11 questions to ask yourself to determine if your personal standards have crossed the line and are creating unnecessary anxiety. And make sure you grab the free PDF for this post to put it into action!

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Your Standards Are Keeping You Stuck & Anxious | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

Your Standards Are Keeping You Stuck & Anxious

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism /

So the first thing we’ve gotta do to get into recovery is to figure out what your standards are for yourself.  Having standards is important. Even having high standards is important.  But when our standards are unhealthy they create problems.  So in today’s article, I’m walking you through how to determine what your standards are, complete with a PDF to help you start making it actionable.  Then next week, we’ll start figuring out if they’re healthy, so don’t miss it.  

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10 Signs of Maladaptive Perfectionism | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

10 Signs of Maladaptive Perfectionism

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Hey, we all want to do great work, right?  I mean, why work hard unless whatever you produce is something you’re really proud of?  I’m definitely on board with that.  

 

The problem is that setting high standards for ourselves can get out of hand for some of us.  In today’s article, I outline 10 signs that you’ve crossed the line into a place where your high standards are no longer working for you.  Check it out here. And then I’ve got a PDF for you to practice changing those unhealthy high standards into healthier alternatives, so make sure you grab that, too, so you can make it actionable.

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The Biggest Mistake Every Perfectionist Makes | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

The Biggest Mistake Every Perfectionist Makes

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism, Stress /

      As a recovering perfectionist, having “mistake” and “perfectionist” in the same sentence already gives me anxiety.  It’s as if there’s something syntactically wrong with that sentence.  But the truth is, despite their many differences from each other, almost all perfectionists make one mistake, and it’s huge.  But before we get into the

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